After the vows have been said and everyone has eaten their dinner, it is common tradition for the bride and groom to share their first dance. This is a very special moment in both people’s lives because it is the very first time you’ll ever dance as husband and wife; and there is only ever one first time. Though the idea seems pretty straight forward on paper, it can actually be quite difficult to decide on the perfect song for your first dance. The trouble is that both of you need to agree on one particular song, a feat that can occasionally be a little more challenging than you may imagine. Fortunately, there are some good tips for choosing your “first dance” song that will make the task an easy job.
Find Common Ground
Though you and your partner’s musical tastes are bound to be somewhat different, there is almost always a little common ground that you can focus on to make picking your first dance song easier. For instance, if you both like a certain style of music, try choosing from that genre. It can be a lot easier than trying to force a song that one of you simply dislikes into the discussion to focus on songs that both of you can at least tolerate.
When choosing a song for your first dance, one of the most important facets is the lyrics. Though you will likely be snuggled in your partner’s embrace and not focusing too much on the song specifically, your guests will hear the words and know exactly how special this moment is for the two of you. Usually couples pick songs that have a strong emphasis on love or something lasting forever, but this is really up to you. As long as the song’s lyrics have strong sentimental ties to your relationship or verbally sum it up in an elegant way, you’re definitely on the right track.
A Good Beat
One of the most overlooked things when choosing your first dance song is making sure it has a good beat that is easy to dance to. Too often a couple will choose their song based purely on the sound or the lyrical content and completely forget that they will also need to dance to this song in front of all of their friends, family, and wedding guests. One of the best things you can do when choosing the song is to put it on your stereo and dance to it in your bedroom or living room to make sure it will work out. This is also a great way to practice your dancing skill so you’re not just “winging it” on your big day.
Some of the coolest first dance experiences I’ve witnessed were totally unconventional and unexpected, and they really made for great memories and a fun time for everyone. I’ve seen things ranging from couples taking swing dance classes in secret to astound everyone with their new skills to hiring gymnasts to do cartwheels and summersaults into the reception hall as the newlywed couple heads for the dance floor. Though you may not be quite as adventurous as the couples I mentioned, doing something out of the ordinary that spices up the event can really be a fun way to make the day special.